Over the course of our life, we accumulate knowledge and experiences that others can benefit from. Why not share this wisdom with younger family members, junior colleagues, or peers?
While we can’t prevent others from making mistakes, we can share our experiences and outcomes with them. We can teach others shortcuts from our own success.
Share the Process, not just the Results
While our situations are unique to our personal experiences, others can learn how we approached the situation, how we came to a conclusion, and what the effects were for us.
I didn’t come into this world wanting to be a teacher. Over time, I happened into this role out of compassion to help others avoid making the same mistakes that I made. At the office, I hoped my colleagues would learn from my work experiences, which I believed were invaluable lessons from former mentors. For younger family members, I shared my tactics on how to deflect intimidating threats from bullies.
Be a Stealth Smart Lemming
Basically, I’m trying to give back all that I have received. I try not to be preachy, because no one wants people telling them what to do or how to live their life. I try to be stealth about my teachings by adding value when I see an open mind that allows me to share my lessons learned.
At the end of the day, I aspire to be good person. I’m always hoping that others can learn from my mistakes or successes in my life and career.
How can you help or teach others? You can start by:
- Being a role model: At times, you’re a role model and don’t even know it. Others are watching and learning from your actions, so walk your talk.
- Being a mentor: Be a mentor by proactively helping others, who you can mentor to success. Do random acts of kindness at the office for a junior colleague.
- Helping a coworker who hates their job: Communicate to your boss about coworker’s performance, give positive feedback to your coworker, and interact with coworkers who look isolated, or offer to go to lunch or get drinks after work.
- Encourage ownership: Help others take personal ownership by helping others figure out how to achieve their goals.
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The Smart Lemming Rules of Life and Career Management series outlines my rules of personal and work success. After reflecting on my personal values, I made this list, realizing values are my rules of being or life management principles. Based on your experiences, I hope this list inspires you to identify your own rules. Here are the rules to my success that may help you over the course of your journey:
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Level 1: Rules for Our Fundamental Nature
- #1 Find your own spirituality and practice it.
- #2 Know what you want or the Universe (or God) won’t know what to send you: If you don’t know what you want, how can you get to where you want to be?
- #3 Fate or free will? Regardless of what you believe, we all have a purpose to being here. The tricky part is discovering what it is.
- #4 Don’t wait for your future to happen to you, you have to be vigilant in making your future happen.
- #5 Understand your dark side, but don’t give into it or indulge it.
- #6 Aspire to always help and teach others.
Level 2: Rules of Continuous Learning and Modeling
- #7 Watch or read media sources when you need inspiration. Reflect on why you like a certain movie or TV show, so you understand why it moves you.
- #8 Always be learning. Continue learning through books or any source that gives you new ideas on how to approach your work or feeds your passion.
- #9 Become self aware. If you aren’t, then how will you know you’re screwing up?
- #10 Accept responsibility and make peace with your decisions and the consequences of those decisions. They have created the person you are today. The trick is, do you like what you’ve created? If not, then how can you change?
- #11 Keep a lid on chaos. Never let situations or emotions get away from you. Be the calm in the eye of the storm as strength, reflecting confidence for the most vulnerable people in your life.
Level 3: Rules for the Actual Journey
- #12 Stay still and don’t move if you feel lost, so you can find yourself or let the opportunity find you.
- #13 Always be course correcting.
- #14 Surround yourself with trusted and loyal friends. Be prepared to deal with betrayal without ambivalence. But be prepare to forgive (if the person is sincere, I mean really sincere).
- #15 Learn to channel your inner extrovert, if you’re an introvert. Learn to channel your inner introvert, if you’re an extrovert.
Level 4: Rules of Adapting to Environment and Interacting with Others
- #16 Make peace with your weaknesses. We’re not perfect. Even your strengths will turn into weaknesses. The trick is knowing when your strength has become a weakness.
- #17 Master your emotions and body language. Use them strategically in life and work.
- #18 Mentor yourself via the Space Time Continuum. What would your future self tell your present self? How can you get back on track? What have you done well? What more can you do? What would you tell yourself as a child, teen, 20 or 30 something?
Level 5: Rules of Humility
- #19 Never take your success for granted. Always prepare for the worst case scenarios. Be prepared for two steps forward and one step back.
- #20 Be humble. Treat others well, don’t be arrogant, and don’t drink your own Kool-Aid.
Level 6: Rule of Being
- #21 Be compassionate.